Well, if you're here, you either accidentally stumbled upon me through some google search gone terribly wrong, or you're here because you are a beloved family member or friend who has either watched me struggle for years, months, weeks, days (depends on when you came into my life) with my disorder, or you have recently been "looped in" so to speak via Facebook. Either way, you're most likely here because you care in some way, shape, or form, and I appreciate that more than you will possibly ever know. Any form of support, whether it be a phone call to reach out, or even a simple "like" on FB of one of my anti-ED statuses, it all helps.
I'm going public with my recovery for a few reasons. The first and foremost is that I'm sick of lying to people. Every time someone asks me how school is going and I tell them it's fantastic, I wish I had the courage to say, "actually, I'm not in school right now. I'm in treatment for an eating disorder that I've had for 4 years." I'm tired of always covering for ED. It stops here. It stops now. For some of you who may have only recently discovered my secret, I apologize for the jarring slap in the face via FB. I would have, of course, rather told everyone in person, but that would have taken too much time, too many tears, and also too much traveling.
Another reason I'm "coming out" of ED's closet is that I need all the support I can get. I'll be leaving treatment in a week, and if I'm going to make it in the real world, I need all the helping hands I can muster. Plus, having followers to satisfy keeps me on top of my recovery process and reminds me to check in with myself. And everyone needs a little space to bounce ideas off of, no?
Also, making several phone calls a day to recount my day to multiple people gets old. Thank goodness for technology - I can have it all in one place for all to see! That doesn't mean you can't call me though :)
I also created a twitter account for the same express purpose - to keep you all informed - if you prefer that, follow me at @allisonfm12 (original, right? I didn't know what purpose it would serve at its inception, so I kept it tidy).
I apologize if there are lots of typos, most of you who know me well are aware of the fact that I'm a bit of a grammar Nazi...I am, however, on an iPhone, and most of us know how autocorrect likes to screw with us.
Bear with me as I get this started, I'll be posting more later - I suppose most of you will be wanting some kind of back story...and you'll get it, my story-telling muscles could use some exercise (just as long as its not excessive :p) <--- feel free to laugh at my jokes. It's ok. I promise.
Allie! I love you sooo much... And I remember when I began to realize that something was up... I know deep down that nobody can help you unless you want to help yourself. I cannot express how proud I am of you for reaching out. Got a huge set if balls, girl... <3 One of my favorite qualities in you was that you were bold. And that's why you're my best friend. I haven't been im touch for such a long time and I feel like such a prick for not being there for you. If you need me... Just want to vent....or care to visit Arkansas ill be around. In fact, ill be in NH in a few weeks . Id love to catch up and dont hesitate to holler for me. You are not alone. And you are not weak. You've got this... And incredibly courageous and smart for getting help.
ReplyDeleteAllie:
ReplyDeleteThere is so much I want to say to you, that Im not sure where to begin...
I want to start of by saying that I have to praise you for all the strength it took for you to be honest with yourself and all of us about your eating disorder. I know that it must not have been easy for you.
Secondly, I want to apologize to you. I am sorry for not being someone you felt comfortable enough to confide in when you were going through this. Please, dont feel bad, I am saying this now, so that you will, from this moment forward, know that you can tell me ANYTHING, and I wil be here to listen, or offer advice, or whatever you need.
I also want to say that I am a little hurt that you felt that you had to lie to me. I know you have your reasons, and I respect that. But, just know that you didnt have to, my dear friend. I would NEVER EVER judge you for any of the choices you make.
Just know that I love you more than a best friend, more like a little sister, and we will always be the best of friends no matter where we are in life.